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Trump Supporter’s accountability

Finger_pointingLets surmise Trump has a  condition known as diarrhea of the mouth…poor fellow. As a result of his condition sadly, he can’t see the difference between speaking your mind and hurting people.  if because of his horrible condition, how is it his supporters over look, make excuses for and totally ignore the negative comments he’s made? He has spoken negatively about blacks, women, Jews, muslims, gays and the handicapped.  Surly most (Trump) supporters has at LEAST one of those “kinds of people” in their family or a friend who they care about and love. Don’t you? Do you speak negatively to your own family and friends? Come on, you mean you don’t call each other fat, stupid, dumb and the men you know don’t make references about the size of their penis’ at the dinner table? Well, slap my ass and call me Sally, I hope the hell you don’t.  SO, then why is it OK for Trump to do it? How are using those words and insults part of “speaking one’s mind” and acceptable? If it is something you’d never say to your friends or family members because it’s hurtful then it is NEVER OK for anyone to say it to members of our country and world.

AND SO, TO YOU Trump supporters I point my finger at you…I point to you and ask where is your accountability in allowing him to speak to your friends and family as he has done and continues to do?

You know, my father used to speak his mind too. He sure did. He used to call me names when I didn’t agree with him. He said I was a loser. I was stupid. I was dumb AND I would never amount to anything. And those were just the tip of the iceberg (and not the Jewish kind either). It was common for him to call me a bitch and other derogatory names against women. Today, we would call that verbal abuse. We also know that speaking like that is counter productive and does nothing but alienate the very people who are being insulted. SO, I ask you again. Why is it OK for Trump to say those things?

This is not about Hilary Clinton. This isn’t about any other aspect of the 2016 election. I am writing this piece to address the verbally abusive statements Donald Trump has made. This is about a man named Donald Trump who has stood up before our nation and made fun of handicapped people, said ALL blacks are lazy and referenced other women in regards to their beauty (or there lack off). How do you as a supporter justify the negative and mean things he has said?  Would you tolerate your spouse, son or friend from saying it to you?  Gosh, I hope not. How do you justify the amount of hate that he has provoked in others during his campaign rallies? There are record numbers of hate groups like the KKK who are not only showing their support of Trump BUT they have also been acknowledged in a positive manner by Trump. This is NOT OK! During a campaign rally any criticism voiced from a member of a crowd (to Trump), he immediately attacks them by name calling.  Wasn’t that a kind of behavior we did in grade school? PEOPLE, where’s the logic here? Now, name calling is part of speaking one’s mind? Are you kidding me?  Why are you not appalled? You would be if it were your son or daughter speaking that way but the potential president of the United States is allowed?

Here’s the thing. We are the UNITED States of America. We are made up of many not just one. Our country is about justice for the many and not simply for the few. I believe in voting for a person who will stand up for each and every one of us AND NOT one who will put them down. If a man like Trump is willing to speak negatively against one group, how can you be so certain yours won’t be next? The manner in which Trump has behaved and the way his supporters have followed him saddens me beyond words. How can loving people overlook the hate he has publicly voiced? And how is it his supporters have not demanded he stop?  How do YOU allow him to speak to one of your family members, a friend, a co-worker and a neighbor as he has done? AND lastly, are you not giving him permission to speak as he does when you sit by idly and say nothing?

I have not heard one supporter of Trump I know denounce his hateful statements. All I’ve heard Trump supporters say is they like him because he’s speaking his mind, he’s honest AND Clinton is a crook. Let me tell you something people. My father also spoke his mind and it was damaging. It doesn’t matter if the hateful talk is coming from a parent or from a man running for presidency. The bottom line is it’s wrong. I’m SICK AND TIRED of the bigot and the abuser being protected. Don’t attempt to bull shit me and try to disguise his name calling as “simply speaking one’s mind”. OH HELL NO! IF Hilary Clinton were to say the hateful things as Trump has said, I (as a lifelong Democrat) would have no choice but to vote for the other candidate. I respect myself AND my fellow human being far more than to support someone willing to use any of my friends in that way.

I have to be honest here and say I am disappointed in my family and friends who support Trump.  I am disappointed in my Trump supporting friends for not demanding, screaming from the roof tops and being appalled at Trump. It makes me wonder. Do my friends and family members who support him really believe the abusive remarks he’s made? Do you not see it as abuse or hate (and if not I’m dumbfounded)?  Do you really not recognize what hate sounds like? How about replacing the person he’s speaking about and putting you in there? I guarantee if you do, you will better hear what I hear.

BUT, if you aren’t certain let me point these things out from statements he’s made: making fun of a handicapped person through hand gestures, saying ALL blacks are lazy, saying Mexico is sending us ALL of their criminals, referring to a woman as unattractive, ugly and a bitch and calling people fat and dumb. When you make a statement that says ALL in a group are this or that, that is called a bigoted remark. That’s like saying ALL white people have black hair.  It’s just simply not true.

Do you still say you applaud him for “speaking his mind?” Really?  After all, why do we need diplomacy from a president? Gosh, that’s not important, right? After all just think what Donald Trump could say when speaking to  Bashar Al-Assar? Gosh, I hope he tells him to go to hell and that he’s a stupid ass bastard. How about Trump speaking to other hate filled, wanting to bomb the hell out of others, world leaders? No need to worry about diplomacy or worrying about speaking his mind. After all those leaders won’t mind…oh, wait a minute… those are leaders who have had their own citizens murdered for far lessor “offenses”. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? Trump has a condition known as diarrhea of the mouth…he has no filter no matter who he’s speaking to.  Let’s just insight the volatile. And then there are those of us who fit into those categories he has said bigoted things about, how about us? Just ignore it? Really?

It saddens me tremendously more than anything to have family and friends make excuses for his behavior instead of demanding better. How am I supposed to react? How do you think it makes me feel? You say you value me but you vote for a man who doesn’t. You say you accept my marriage but you vote for a man who doesn’t (and wants to take it away from me). You say you understand the need for Carol to adopt Judah but then you vote for a man who wants to keep us from doing so. And you tell me how unfair it is to be fired from a job simply because I’m gay and yet, yes, you vote for a man who believes it’s OK.

If my friends and family members do love us and support us for who we are then where the HELL is your outrage? Why in the HELL are you not screaming from the roof tops telling that man to stop? Does it not matter that much or is that important to you? Is it  because it really doesn’t effect you? Holy hell I hope more than anything it’s not because you actually agree with him in regards to his hateful comments.  You do know by remaining silent it only gives him the permission to continue AND by voting for him  makes YOU an accomplice? Again, you ask if this is this personal? Really? Hell yes! This is MY family! When friends and family members vote for a man who wants to hurt MY FAMILY it makes me sad and angry. I point my finger to you for your participation.

It blows my mind to have friends and family members who would never speak hatefully in their own homes, yet are voting for a man who has made name calling and making fun of people the norm in his campaign.  To have friends and family members who have seemed to have embraced me as a lesbian and a Jew BUT are voting for a man who has made blanket derogatory remarks against me.  I just don’t understand.

Listen, when I hear any person speaking negatively about another, I am standing up and speaking out. Sadly, I am often the only one and I don’t understand why.  It’s my duty, though, to treat my fellow humans with integrity AND stand with them in the time of need.  I’m especially outraged when the injustice is directed to a friend or family member because then it is personal.

Let me say this again. This is NOT ABOUT CLINTON! This isn’t about being a Republican or a Democrat. THIS IS ABOUT STANDING UP FOR YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY, CO-WORKER and NEIGHBOR. THIS IS ABOUT SPEAKING OUT  against a man who in very plain English has said inexcusable things about the very people YOU claim you care about in your own lives.

AND SO here I wait and watch making YOU accountable…



Make America Great Again?

It’s always hard to look at ourselves to see what we have done to contribute to the wrongs in this world…it is easier to blame the ones around us. In the Jewish communities we often say, “Our small Jewish community is dwindling because our young people are moving away (where there are better jobs).” As the reasons may have some truth I feel strongly we as individuals play a part in the problem. In order to really find the truth we must look in the mirror to search for our own responsibilities. We must begin asking ourselves how did I (we as a community) turn others away?
It’s never easy to look at ourselves and to criticize our own communities. It can be painful. However in the end we can emerge much stronger and more unified. Searching internally for the answers doesn’t have to drive us away from one another (in anger due to making accusations and pointing fingers) but instead towards one another in brother and sisterhood. We need to begin looking at the commonalities we share. We need to stop being silent partners and supporters AND start standing up for those who are being mistreated. If my fellow Jew is being mistreated, then I am mistreated. This is the mentality we need to take.
In reference to my larger community, my country, I am angry when I hear politicians be allowed to make anti-gay, anti-black, anti-Jewish, anti-Muslim (and the list goes on, people) AND my fellow Jews are not even outraged. WHERE IS THE OUTRAGE? I’m blown away that Jews (out of all people because of the hate we’ve had to endure) continue to support people who have publicly spoken hatefully against other groups. To my fellow Jews did you know there was a large German Jewish following of Hitler? You think that was then and this is now? Well, the Jews who supported Hitler believed in his promise of making Germany great again. Hitler promised to bring back wealth and jobs. Amongst his promises were also words of hate towards Jews and other groups but people ignored that part. Hitler vocalized his bigotries from the beginning but Jews wanted to believe nothing would come of it. Over time as Hitler’s popularity grew, the anger in Germany grew. Oh, but, it didn’t grow against Hitler. Oh no, it didn’t. Instead that anger was targeted towards the groups that Hitler negatively spoke about in his speeches. Folks, it was the beginning of the end of the Germany that millions of Jews called their home. Back then, Jews around the world were in disbelief that one man could manipulate an entire nation and allow such hate to seethe through so many of their citizens. By no means would I ever suggest it was the fault of the Jews and that they caused their own destiny. NO! NO! NO! But I am saying when there are clues, we must listen to them. I am trying to understand how we as Jews keep repeating history even when we have the answers from our past. I don’t care if Trump will “take government out of our lives”, “create more jobs”, “save us from ISIS”… all of his promises are mute and void when in his speeches are intertwined with hate. I am afraid of what that hate will transpire into if he is elected. People love the fact that he has broken through the barriers of speaking politically correct. Maybe that’s good so we can know where he stands. And yet, we don’t seem to be listening. His ability to break through the walls of “non politically correctness” he has singlehandedly ensued a level of hate that has not been seen in this country for many years.
A teenager standing silently and respectfully at a Trump rally was holding up a respectful sign about his family from Mexico. I know first hand from a student of mine who was there and was appalled by what happened. The teenager was manhandled by several large grown men, yelled at by the grown ups around him (as they called him terrible racist names) and thrown (VERY FORCEFULLY) out of the rally. AND that wasn’t all. Those men during the rally were recognized by Trump himself for doing what they did. They were considered heroes. Oh, and that’s not all either. After Trump recognized those men, the crowd went crazy cheering those men all while many in the crowd were yelling more hateful remarks against the teenager. I know other people who were there who were cheering and didn’t even hear all of the hateful slurs being yelled…BUT you can hear them clearly in the video of the event.
Where is the outrage? Jews, where is our outrage? Every year we remember the millions who died in the holocaust and we repeat the words, “Never again”. Well, it takes more than just repeating those words. It means we take the clues from our past, compare them to what is happening today. AND dammit if it matches, we need to fight like hell to stop it from happening in our future. NEVER should hate be a part of a campaign and we should not be standing idly by as we have done in our past. Over and over again we have said, “Oh, it can’t happen here. We live in modern day. We have laws protecting us.”
How many times in our history have we said it could never happen and it did? How many times did we see it coming but chose to do nothing? How many times did we get wrapped up in the promises and overlook the hatred that was festering underneath?
I am appalled, scared and enraged by the increase of hate that has been allowed to perpetuate in this country. Some say the increased racism is the fault of President Obama. Well, you know what? I could not agree more. When a black man is elected to become our first ever black president AND then is re-elected, those bigots out there are angrier than ever. Simply having a black man as president pisses people off. AND SO, it is the president’s fault. (Laugh inserted here) I just love the philosophy of blaming the victim. Meanwhile, how about Donald Trumpf? During his rallies hate has been applauded, accepted as speaking his mind AND used as a took for him to gain power. Sound familiar my fellow Jews? Never again, my ass.
The hell with any policies or promises Trump says he will and can achieve. His promises are null and void to me as I cannot trust someone willing to speak hatefully against any of my fellow citizens. As a woman who is Jewish and gay I place preserving my own freedom first in the America that I love BECAUSE it was meant for ALL. There were German Jews who excused Hitler’s hate until it was too late… until it was very clear his hate were not just “politically incorrect” words. HELLO?!
Folks, anyone who is arrogant enough to publicly speak in a derogatory manner against any group (AND receives standing ovations after saying it), we should ALL be TERRIFIED.
I understand we all have different political views which I respect and appreciate. My issue, my fear and my concern right now in this election is that we have a man who is running for president of the United States of America who is isolating many through hate. Our country has fought too hard for the sake of allowing ALL the same rights and liberties.
A man who is able to create such hatred with in our fellow citizens is frightening. It’s frightening to watch a man stand with his head held high all the while standing securely on a podium of hate. If that’s how those who are voting for Trump feel can “Make America Great Again” then shame on you. SHAME ON YOU!

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